Be Your Husbands "Other Woman" to Keep the Marriage Alive
When we get bored in our relationships, and here I mean sexually bored it usually means we have had enough of the same old routine every day. I don't care if you are male or female, we all get into the same rut at one point or another. In order to get to the truth I am going to have to get very personal here for just a second.
Can you recite by heart the way your sexual encounter begins and ends?. I mean step by step, including at which point the moans come?. If you know within seconds, how what transpires, what your partner is going to do, and how, at each moment of the time, you have reached the one point you don't want to stay in forever.
When you have come to this point that is when suddenly, other people seem to become a little more than just attractive in the normal way. You no longer just glance, think 'hot' and then forget, but actually lust after that person in a big way. Why? Because your life is so boring, that you would rather do the tax returns.
Now, that is not just one person's fault. Remember, you are bored, because you are boring. Yes, ladies
and gentlemen, you are just as guilty. If you were a bit more open to different things, not just same old, same old, too tired, to make the effort to just do something different, remember just a small bit of effort could do wonders for your love life. Consider your partner's input, if you are too scared to try something new, or no longer care to take special pains with your appearance, and just see it as another chore to get done, then you have crossed the line. Gentlemen, before I go on to the ladies, in order to deserve your ladies special cares, you need to let them know you see it. All too often these little things go unnoticed, or if noticed you don't say anything. Ladies, this Article is written for you, I cannot speak for the guy's, but allow me to give you the secrets I have personally learnt over the years.
Fact: A man wants something strange from time to time and even women want that. Before you go all crazy on me, you however can become that "something strange". Okay so what actually is that something strange?. Well, all of us ladies have a 'pleasure canal' and we all have T & A. What is different is the way we look, the size of the things, and the way we act. We can't all pay for plastic surgery, and we may not even want to do that, but we can change our appearance with hairstyles, dye, wigs, contacts, exercise etc. That is really a good start. Get to know what turns your husband's head and then change your appearance to get as close to that fantasy as possible. Don't tell him about it ladies. This is a surprise.
Change your attitude:
I can almost guarantee you that you were not always a stick in the mud. I bet that when you first met him, you were this super chick that loved to do things. Then for some reason (we use the excuse life) we changed. We became the 'Mommy'. Yes ladies, being a Mommy is very important, it is very special and it has no place in your bed. When your babies are asleep and you are alone with your husband, you are no longer 'Mom". You need to remember to be a woman. Yes, she is still there. If you had a hard day, all day long, I understand that, you hate to do 'anything else', but let us be honest girls, doesn't that orgasm make you feel good? Don't you sleep so much better after? I heard that, what if he can't please you? Well, then teach him! Men are amazingly willing to please their woman, even masters do. If you don't share with your husband what turns you on or off, then he won't know.
Of course that means you have to get over yourself and be willing to be open. Remember, that is one of the biggest things a "Mistress" has over you. She is willing and eager to be with him. She dresses up for him. She is a WOMAN!
Get out of those frumpy clothes:
What your husband wants to see is a sexy woman. So trade in those 'granny nightgowns' or those shorts you wear to bed unless of course that is his fetish. Either come to bed nude or better yet, try some heels, stockings, sexy lingerie, garters and cup-less bras underneath etc.
Find out what turns him on and then get those outfits. If you are completely clueless, then give this a try. Go out and buy a black garter, black stockings, some high heels ( those make your legs and bum look fabulous), a sexy matching black either cup-less or lace bra. Get some scented body lotion that you know he will enjoy on you and a nice dress to cover it all. Now, here is the game plan. Put your kids to sleep - and make sure they are down for the night. Tell your hubby that you are going to take a bath because you had a long day. Let him do whatever he is doing and don't say a thing. Then take your bath, light some candles etc. Fix your hair, put lotion all over your body, and do your make-up, like you would for a special outing, then dress in your new things. If you can't walk in heels, practice first. Then find your lover and surprise him. Remember, he may not react the way you want him to the first time. He could be shocked.
Take him by the hand to the bedroom or if the kids are at a sitter, snuggle up there. Do you remember how to pet?. Then at one point, put on some sexy music and do a little strip tease for him. Out of your dress and let him enjoy underneath. After that he will either take over, or you can strip of one thing after the other, but leave the stockings, garter and heels on unless he wants them off.
You know you don't even have to go to this extreme, I was just setting the scene, you can do little bits at first if you are inhibited, like most of us are, with those love handles and the wobbly bits here and there, take baby steps, you have to learn to crawl before you can walk, you get the picture. Always remember Rome was not built in a day. But those baby steps constitute a start, you never know where they may lead. "Good Luck"
Do small services for him:
If your husband is a nice guy, he won't have any problems finding a female that will. I can bet with you and win, she won't mind bringing him coffee, or tea, rub his feet or run a bath for him. No telling what would happen if you joined him for that bath. Now be sure you know your guy. How about giving your husband a nice bath and then a bit of pleasure without expecting anything in return? No, you don't always need yours either. Of course most of the time, he will wish to give in return.
Fetishes are fun:
Why not get a babysitter and greet him at the door in a naughty nurse outfit, be the French maid, or you could be the Police woman. You may dress up for Halloween, so why not do it any other time.
Be honest with each other:
Ask him, if he could try anything he wanted, what would it be. If you want to give it, fine, if not gently bring the conversation to the next option. Then hear him out, without getting angry, remember you asked him. Make sure to tell him some fantasies of your own. You may find out that you have some things in common. This will take a while for both of you, most guys and girls are afraid to be honest.
A naughty lunch date:
What do you do when you are cheating?. You find time to meet each other for some naughty fun. So why not do it for yourself? Pick him up one day and take him to a motel. Have a lunch set up already and then be the desert. Sexy dressed of course. Room rented ahead of time. Make it sleazy. A one hour motel room with those beds and porn movies. He won't know who you are anymore. Or if you want to go fancy, get a place that is down right ritzy.
The point is, be something completely different. If you are the normally quite one, be aggressive. If he likes them submissive, well then be it. If you are blond and he likes black hair, get a wig. You have short hair and he loves long hair, get hair extensions.
A Mistress's strong point is her availability and that she is willing to be sexy for him, do for him and is eager for him. He is the focal point and not just the "dad and provider". He is her MAN.
You can do that right?